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第4章 Power in Gratitude (1)

·Meade·

When my older son was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder,my first reaction was relief—I finally knew the reason for his behavior. However,I was also overwhelmed with sadness,fear and anger. I felt sorry for my son and for myself. Like many others in similar circumstances,my question to God was“Why me?”

Through the grace of God,I am now able to focus on my gratitude. I believe God chose me to raise my son because He knew that I would give him the best I have. He will teach me to love and understand him for who he is. I am grateful that I have my son,and grateful that God chose me to be his mother.

There is power and healing in gratitude.

How can gratitude help us in our everyday lives as moms? Think about the difference you can make in your family’s life just by noticing and being thankful for all the great things they do. When you express gratitude,you show your love and appreciation. Everyone needs to feel these things every day. Sometimes as moms we feel that no one appreciates us—and it is true that moms are usually last on the list to be thanked. One way you can teach gratitude is by example. Even on the days when it seems your children or husband are doing everything wrong,find a reason to thank them. Take the time and energy to look for the good. Think about the things that your family does that deserve a“Thank you”. You might say to your husband,“Thank you for working so hard for our family,”or,to your child,“I really appreciate your sense of humor—it feels good to laugh.”Expressing your gratitude helps family members to understand how it feels to be appreciated. And if they still don’t catch on,let them know when you feel unappreciated. You can also tell them how great it makes you feel when they do express gratitude.

Gratitude is a wonderful motivator when you need cooperation. When enlisting the help of my two year old,I praise him often and with enthusiasm. I let him know that he is a great helper. I know I am teaching him appreciation because he expresses it to me. The other day I brought a bunch of multicolored roses home. For five days,at least once or twice a day,my son thanked me for the flowers.

Sometimes we get so busy and caught up in daily life that we forget to be grateful. We expect everyone to do their share without being asked. The only time anyone hears anything is when a chore has not been completed. This attitude,over the long haul,will develop very resentful and uncooperative family members.

When life is good,gratitude is easy. It becomes more challenging to be grateful when we are experiencing hard times. Financial hardship,long-term illness,the death of a loved one and marital strife can all be trying and difficult. It is hard to find anything to be grateful for. But while pain is inevitable,suffering is optional. We have a choice in how we view our circumstances. We can turn our hearts to God and trust that he has a plan for us. We can be thankful for the lessons we learn and the opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Look at all the people in this world who share the gifts they received during especially difficult times of their life. It is the painful times of my life that have made me stronger,wiser,and more loving today.

I recently attended a powerful seminar on the various levels of energy that a human being emanates. The presenter identified seven different levels of energy. The first level of energy is defined by feelings of apathy and thoughts of victimization. A person at a level two energy has feelings of anger and thoughts of conflict. As a person moves up the energy scale,their feelings and thoughts are more positive. At level seven,one would experience unconditional love and no judgmental thoughts. Only God radiates at level seven. The average person emits energy at a level of 2. 5. To experience peace and joy,an individual must raise his energy level to 5 or 6.

So how can we raise our energy level and open our heart to joy? One powerful way is to develop an attitude of gratitude. Look at everyone with grateful eyes. Listen to your heart and the heart of your loved ones. Speak words of affirmation every day of your life. Be grateful for your life with all its lessons and blessings. The more grateful thoughts and feelings you experience and express the more instrumental you will be in healing the world. And your outlook on life will improve in the process.

感恩的力量

米 德

当我的大儿子被确诊为“注意力缺陷多动症”时,我的第一反应就是放松——我终于知道他那些行为举止的原因所在了。然而,我也陷入了悲伤、畏惧和愤怒的深渊。我既为儿子也为我自己感到难过。像其他很多处于相似境况的人一样,我也禁不住要问上帝:“为什么是我?”

由于上帝的恩惠,我现在可以把心思集中在感恩上了。我相信,上帝选择我来养育我的儿子,是因为他相信我会把我最好的东西给予儿子。上帝教导我去爱、去理解儿子的一切。我很感激上帝选择我做儿子的母亲。

感恩的力量和疗伤的作用是不可忽视的。

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